Hello everyone! I typically would not do a post like this, but the Lord has laid this on my heart. I went through a break up about 3 months ago and this was my very first real relationship. It absolutely broke me and it hurt me a lot. I loved the boy I was dating and I thought that God sent him to me because I was ready to meet the one I was to spend the rest of my life with. Little did I know, God was trying to show me something else through a relationship that was so special to me. In Psalms 66: 10- 12, God tells us that he refines us like silver. What that basically means is that when we go through a trial, God is giving that trial to us so that he can show us our own strength and then so he can show us how we can become a “new” person when you overcome the trial you were facing. Okay so now I want to share with you six things God taught me when I felt like my heart was in a thousand pieces and my world had just been turned upside down.
I know that not everyone’s situation is the same as my situation was. The reasoning behind my relationship ending was not his fault and it was not my fault. Sometimes God puts people and times in your life but only for a certain amount of time. It sucks a lot but God always has a purpose behind it and I promise you that his purpose is so worth it! God taught me that no one is always at fault for something bad. Even though plans fall through and the guy or women you thought you were meant to be with forever ends up not being the one, they are NOT always at fault. I completely understand that in some cases this is totally not the case and my heart goes out for you!
I have always been a planner and probably always will be. I love writing in my planner and I love trying to motivate myself to actually use my planner but the truth is, I am to dang busy to have to worry about using a planner! Even though I’m too busy to use my way to expensive planner, God never is too busy to use it for you! God has been planning your life out before your great grandparents could have ever thought of you! Therefor (I know easier said than done, but trust me it’s possible) don’t worry about planning your life out! This is something that at first, I really didn’t want to open my eyes too, because I know how hard it is to do. It is still something I’m learning to do but I’m beginning to understand how important it is to trust the Lord with everything you have.
Girls love attention and even boys do too, but I think that attention genuinely just feels more comforting when its coming from someone you love. In my previous relationship, attention was never an issue and we got along well but, all relationships have flaws and they all have bad days. If you ever feel like you are not getting enough attention from your significant other, first stop and pray about things and then if God has told you that you need to address the problem then do it! Just listen to God and stand up for yourself and your feelings. If you feel like God is telling you that you need to end that relationship then listen and obey. He is creating a PERFECT spouse for you and he is creating that person to a “T” just for you!
When I went through this rough time in my life sharing my emotions was honestly tough for me to do. I am usually a very open person and I am not afraid to share my emotions with those I trust. I was very scared to open up to my best friend who is basically my big sister to me especially because I knew that I was going to get flashbacks of memories and that was going to tear me up inside even more than I already was. When I finally did open up to her, I finally just let EVERYTHING out and I think that was the best decision I could have ever made. Another amazing choice I made during this time was to open my Bible and to seek Gods word. Reading my Bible during a rough time is always comforting to me.
Sometimes when we go through exciting and hard times praying is the hardest but the most important thing to do. I know that I become almost speechless when I try to pray during a time when my mind is all over the place. Even though it may seem difficult prayer is still one of the top things that God showed me to do during this hard time. I also learned that I was not praying the proper way like I should have been. When we pray, we should not be only asking God for things or simply demanding things. God does provide for us but we also must show God that we have his back and we share his love with others.
Women should not have to rely on a guy in life! Loving a guy is a whole lot different than having to rely on a guy for the rest of your life. Women are as precious as rubies just like it says Proverbs 3:14. I have always been a very independent person and to be honest, I don’t mind it. I feel comfort in the fact that I can go and do things in my daily life on my own without having an anxiety attack. A guy should be there to love and care for you, not take your steps through life for you. Don’t be afraid to be independent ladies!
God has shown me a lot through this tough experience in my life but I’m grateful he has shown me how to handle it with a positive outlook. I don’t feel any hate towards my ex or any one in his family and we have forgiven each other and are now working on maintaining a friendship. It hasn’t been easy but it’s been what has saved my emotional state and my mental state. Please be positive and respectful if and when you comment and just know that if you’re going through a rough time or a breakup, your life is not over and you are more precious than rubies! God has someone and a plan greater for you than ever thinkable!!
Peace Out- Kiley
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