I recently asked my friends to give me some blog post ideas for 2018 and I made sure to ask one of my closest guy friends because its not something I would typically think of doing, but I’m really glad I did. He brought up the topic of finding a spouse as a Christian guy, but then I asked him what he meant and how he wanted me to approach this topic. He told me that as a guy, he tends to see guys dating girls just because of looks and because they think a girl is “hot”. This really bothers not only my friend, but it also really bothers me.
As a 18 year old girl, I have had one semi-serious boyfriend and we only dated for a little under four months. It was a hard breakup for me and I’ve talked about it on my blog before, but I ended up learning a lot from it and I’m grateful to have gone through that experience because I learned who I was and what I want to find in a husband when the time comes.
I want to share something that I learned when I went through the break up. However, I know that someone is going to read this and misunderstand my meaning behind my words, so I am going to make the disclaimer before I even say it. The guy I dated was not a bad person and our relationship was just not meant to be. My words are in no way aimed at this person. Now ill share what I learned with you.
“Not everyone that goes to church regularly, says they have a relationship with Jesus, and claims to be an on fire for Jesus kind of Christian actually is.”
So, what do we do when we want a spouse or partner whom sincerely loves Jesus and lives what they say even when you aren’t around? You PRAY! I have to admit that I am not as good at regularly praying like I ought to be, but I am working on it. Prayer is such a fascinating tool we have as Christians because it provides such an intimate time with you and Jesus. I personally have found when I pray ill automatically lift up the guy God has planned for me to eventually marry. Even though I don’t have any clue as to who this person is yet, I still know that I want this guy to love Jesus more than he loves me, I want him to love children, I want him to obtain certain qualities in his personality and character. I always ask God for a guy who loves Jesus more than me because to me that is something I am always going to desire having in a spouse. We also have to remember that Gods plan is far greater than we could ever fathom and God will always have the perfect person planned for you and you have to trust his plan and timing no matter how impatient you may get.
Okay, so when I was trying to plan this post out and just like every other post, I was trying to find scripture to match the topic. I had a hard time finding scripture this time because I didn’t know exactly how to word what I was looking for, but also because in todays society Google is so used to having girls who are broken and lonely asking “how to find the perfect husband”. This makes me so sad, y’all!! Let me tell you why it makes me so sad. First thing is that there is only one perfect person and that’s Jesus. Secondly, its more common than not that these people whom search this are not believers of God and don’t realize they don’t need to “find” a perfect husband because God already has that planned for them.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.”
1 Corinthians 13:4
One of the most popular bible verses about love. How appropriate?! Okay, in all seriousness though, this verse and honestly this entire chapter in 1 Corinthians withholds so much intelligence and truth that to me, I would say it describes what love is perfectly.
“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put ways of childhood behind me.”
1 Corinthians 13:11
This verse is a very “use it as you interpret it” kind of verse. To me, I picture an annoyed wife quoting this verse to her husband as he is irritating her. I also could see this being used as a verse of testimony and many other ways. I think that as a future wife, I would most likely use this verse to grab the attention of my irritating husband. Haha.
“Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.””
1 Corinthians 15:33
As a Christian seeking a spouse, this verse as well as the next verse I am going to share are two verses that ALL Christians who are seeking a spouse need to know. I think this verse more than the next, is a verse that applies to all relationships in life; friendships, employee relationships, acquaintances, etc.
“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteous and wicked have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?”
2 Corinthians 6: 14
Now, before you think “Oh My Word! I cant believe Christians think they are too good to be in fellowship around non-believers!!” just hold your horses for a second and listen to what I am saying. I completely understand where some may think that Christians think they are too good for those who aren’t, but the truth about this verse is that it is in a chapter about Idolatry. Paul wrote 2 Corinthians as the second Epistle to the church of God in Corinth. Chapter six is a very weird and seemingly out of place chapter, but when its deeper studied it shows that it does fit into what Paul was trying to say. Paul came to the church in Corinth because he knew that the Pagans in Corinth were idolaters. They were worshiping false Gods. That is why Paul went to the church in Corinth in the first place; he more or less is explaining his trip to Corinth in the sixth chapter.
So, now that I have shared some key verses with you and I have shared with you the things that God instructs us to do in order to find the perfect spouse as Christians. I pray that you will take this advice and apply it to your life
Remember to encourage one another as you go through out your days and I also encourage you to take 3 extra minuets and pray for your future spouse today!
Also a HUGE thank you to my friend Matthew for the topic suggestion and help!
Peace Out- Kiley