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Todays Post will be posted after my “Traveling With Anxiety” post goes live, but I am writing them both on the same day. I am currently traveling back “home” to Michigan for about a week long visit with all of my family. I am having my graduation open house next weekend (on the 7th of July) and so we are going to spend a week before helping prepping and visiting with our friends and family and celebrating the 4th! I hope everyone had a great week and an even greater holiday spent with friends and family celebrating!! 

So music has been a very large part of my life for a couple of years now and I could not even begin to think about a road trip with out a long playlist of great music. Now let me clarify that I realize that I have named the cover artists for some of the songs. I have nothing against the original artists, I just have the covers on my playlist and this is what I prefer and listen to. 

I would love to know what some of your “classics” are for you and your families road trips! Let me know in the comments so I can check them out!  

This is just a small portion of my family and I’s favorites for our road trips! 

  • So Will I – Jess and Gabriel  
  • Reckless Love – Cory Asbury 
  • Going, Going, Gone – Maddie Poppe 
  • Mercy – Shawn Mendes 
  • Cry Pretty – Carrie Underwood 
  • Life Is a Highway – Rascal Flatts 
  • Rivers Deep – Gabby Barett 
  • Malibu – Miley Cyrus 
  • Bubbly – Colbie Caillat 
  • The Reason – Maddie Poppe 
  • Dirty Water – Lecrae 
  • Don’t Stop Believing – Journey 
  • The Sound – The 1975 
  • Sweet Caroline – Neil Diamond 
  • Girls Just Want to Have Fun – Cyndi Lauper 
  • Simple Things – Brooklyn and Bailey 
  • Shut Up and Dance – Walk the Moon 
  • The Climb – Gabby Barett 
  • Sunrise, Sunburn, Sunset – Luke Bryan 
  • Firework – Katy Perry 
  • Love with Your Life – Hollyn 
  • Love Yourself – Justin Bieber 
  • Company – Justin Bieber 
  • Woke Up in Nashville – Seth Enis 
  • Man in the Mirror – Michael Jackson 
  • Mercy – Shawn Mendes 
  • Most People are Good – Luke Bryan 
  • My Lighthouse – Rend Collective 
  • Oops!… I Did it Again – Brittney Spears 
  • Overcome – Elevation Worship 
  • Run Devil Run – Crowder 
  • Party in The USA – Miley Cyrus 
  • Perfect – Jess and Gabriel (Or Ed Sheeran, I have both and listen to both) 
  • The Pressure – Jess and Gabriel 
  • Rescuer – Rend Collective 
  • September Song – Jess and Gabriel 
  • Sugar – Maroon 5

Like I said earlier, any road trip without good music is a boring road trip to my family and I. We love music and we would love to know what some of your favorites are, so let us know in the comments!  

Check out my previous post to get caught up on what my posting schedule will be like for July and parts of August! Plus its a very helpful post about Travel Anxiety and I give ten of my top tips and tricks on how to handle travel anxiety and stress.

I have a lot of exciting stuff coming up, so make sure you are subscribed because you won’t want to miss any of it! Plus make sure that you’re following my instagram because I will be posting a lot on there!

Peace Out- Kiley

~SOCIAL MEDIA IS IN THE SIDE BAR~

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TEN Travel Anxiety Tips and Tricks

Happy 4th of July (at least in America!) to everyone!!! I hope you all are celebrating with your friends and family by eating the iconic “American foods” like hotdogs, hamburgers, and watermelon!! I know my day will  definitely be filled with a lot of fun and hopefully digging out my patriotism while being on vacation in Pure Michigan!

Today is a post very relatable to the summer holidays and traveling season that I am LOVING right now!! However, traveling brings a lot more anxiety and stress than it does fun and excitement for some people. I am going to be talking about how I manage my anxiety while traveling (mainly driving/ road tripping). I struggle with anxiety a lot (not as much as I used to) and sometimes I feel like it can take over what I am trying to do if I do not have my mind well rested and in a mentally healthy place.

I personally know what feeling anxious and simply stressed out while traveling is like and I have discovered some really helpful things that typically easily accessible for me and are effective. I am going to be sharing my Top Ten Tips and Tricks with you today in hopes that this summers travels will come with more fun and excitement than stress and anxiety for you all!!

  • 1. Music 
    • Having music, if this typically helps you like it does me, helps me just focus on just the music and the road. It helps me keep my mind off the other people in the car and what other noises and conversations are happening behind and beside me. Music also just makes the long drives fun and more exciting, plus if you’re like me, it helps keep me awake. 
    • The next post will be a Summer 2018 Road Trip Playlist!! So make sure to keep your eyes peeled because if you love music you’ll be sure to want to check this post out!
  • 2. A ’Stress Relief Essential Oil’ and ‘Essential Oil bracelet or necklace’ 
    • It sounds ridiculously hippie and just utterly crazy, I know! BUT, just trust me. I promise it actually works! On my last trip, my mom had our old Garmin, “Greta”, for me to follow. Well, like I said, Greta is OLD and Greta gets a bit confused and confused with a serious attitude, at that. We were in Ohio where there is ALWAYS construction and it can get a bit stressful and confusing, especially around the bigger cities like Columbus and Toledo. We ended up lost because ‘Greta’ had a “senior moment” and told me to turn to soon and then she started telling me to drive through gated communities and neighborhoods. To say I was stressed was an understatement. My brother was in the back fussing because I had turned the music down and because we weren’t moving (We were at a red light, y’all.) My mom was trying to help me and we both were so lost and turned around and were both flustered with ‘Greta’ and my brother, Micaiah, that I just got very overwhelmed and just had to take a minuet and get my head straight again and get my map pulled up so I knew where we were going. 
    • NOTE TO SELF**** Next time you, Kiley, drive to Michigan either alone or are the one driving through Ohio. TAKE THE TURN PIKE AND DON’T RELY ON GRETA!! Id rather spend the money on a toll road ticket than get lost like that again. 
    • I am going to leave a link to the website Vitality Extracts Diffuser jewelry here. This is the exact place where my bracelet came from and I LOVE IT!! I will link  the bracelet I own here: Sacred Arrow Diffuser Bracelet . I also have found a few necklaces that are adorable and will link them here: Grateful Diffuser Necklace , Loving Diffuser Necklace.  I can tell you that I personally use the ‘Stress Away’ Oil and I love it! I also use other essential oils, they just aren’t the Vitality Extract brand.
  • 3. Have Multiple Drivers (If Possible) 
    • Most of my family’s road trips are all day trips. We used to live in Michigan and now live in Southwest Virginia and we still go “home” at least once a year to visit our family, if you’re wondering why we do road trips so often or why I went to Michigan. Therefore, my family typically has three licensed drivers who can take turns and drive a portion of the trip. We almost always leave either super late at night (like 11 PM or so) and drive through the night OR we will leave really early in the morning (like 3 or 4 AM) and arrive around supper time. So not only does having other drivers help with stress relief, but it will also allow you to take turns to either sleep or nap or even work like I enjoy doing. 
    • Not to mention having other people in the car makes it less lonely and provides more opportunities for a TON of fun!

  • 4. Taking Advantage of Rest Areas/ Stops 
    • Sounds obvious or like a time damper, trust me, I know! I am a straight through, suck it up, hold it till we get there, kinda road tripper. However, being able to just get out and stretch and get a bit of fresh air, even if it is just to walk into use the restroom, is very helpful. 
    • Plus, if you decide to switch drivers this is a great time and place since you’re not holding up the gas pump line. We all know how impatient people can get while waiting for a gas pump to open up! You could even buy a soda or a quick snack at most rest areas.

  • 5. DO NOT LET IMPATIENT DRIVERS FRIGHTEN YOU!!! 
    • People are rude and impatient on the road and thats just how it is, its unfortunate, but it is just that way. At least in the United States. PLEASE, no matter how close someone is riding your bumper or your side doors, DO NOT GIVE IN! They are the ones in the wrong and I am pretty sure that even if it did cause an accident you don’t want any tickets for speeding or road rage! If you give in and speed up or get aggressive it could make an accident WAAAYY worse and it could very easily give you the tickets instead of them.
  • 6. Have Snacks 
    • Who doesn’t love snacks and treats?!? I know my family doesn’t know how to road trip with out either a large bag or a bin FULL of snacks, treats, and different kinds of drinks. For me personally, if I have something else to focus on that I can physically hold or chew on then I can usually get my mind off the stress or overwhelming situation thats happening. 
    • Plus snacks make the need to stop for food a whole lot less. At least for me and my family this helps us to drive straight through easier and it creates less stops for us. Well…. it honestly just depends on how many cups of coffee my dad drinks, HAHA.

  • 7. Don’t Leave Home Without Either a Pillow, Blanket, or Stuffed Animal
    • You might be thinking, “Kiley, if I’m driving why would I possibly need a pillow or blanket or a stuffed animal!?” Well, here is why; for one, if your legs get cold but no one else is cold then put the blanket over your legs. Two, its the same concept as when we give a young child a stuffed animal or a blanket. It provides comfort and a gives a sense of home. You might look childish but you won’t be anxious or stressed out!

  • 8. If You Can- Pull Over
    • If you are in just too overwhelmed and none of these other tips are an option or are working, then if you can safely pull over, do so. Take a few minuets to gather your nerves and your sense of direction and then when you when you feel less anxious or overwhelmed, head back out on the road.

  • 9. Have Your Directions Printed and on Your Phone
    • This one is kind of a “no-brainer” idea BUT hear me out! When we got lost in Ohio while going to Michigan, we easily would have been fine had we printed out the map and directions. We would have been able to see where we needed to turn ahead of time and I would have been just fine, but we didn’t and it caused me to get really anxious and just overwhelmed. Thankfully we figured everything out and I had my mom rub some of my essential oil on my bracelet and after a little bit, my jitters and sense of overwhelmed started going away.

  • 10. Have Your Anxiety Medicine Accessible 
    • Obviously we all don’t need anxiety medicine or we just simply don’t have any. However, if you do have the option or the need for medication, then please don’t be afraid to use it when you truly need it. Personally, I am not on any medication for my anxiety, mainly because I do not have a strong enough need for a prescription strength medication and I usually keep it under control really well. If you are like me but you feel like you would benefit from a anxiety medication, PLEASE CONSULT YOUR DOCTOR BEFORE PURCHASING ANY MEDICATION!! I AM NOT A DOCTOR IN ANY WAY!!!! If you have talked with your doctor and he/ she is okay with the idea, then there are some over the counter anxiety relief medication you can take. 
    • Clearly this is my last tip because, 1. I have never needed this tip. I am simply suggesting what I have heard works for other people and what I think might help some of you! 2. This would not be my “go-to” tip for dealing with anxiety while traveling. If you’re able, I highly recommend some of the more natural and first tips before going to the medicine cabinet on wheels. 

These are my top 10 travel anxiety tips and tricks to how I deal and cope with my anxiety while traveling. For the most part I stay calm and just fine while driving or traveling, but I do have my moments. I am human and I am NOT perfect in any way. I used to battle anxiety much harsher and a small amount of depression when I was  younger, but by Gods grace, he has delivered me from it and I am able to handle things A LOT better now. I still have a ways to go, but I will get there one day soon. 

I love to travel and so I try to never let my anxieties and worries get in my way! Traveling is something I am praying God will place in my job description once I begin my career as an Influencer/ business woman (that is my dream career/ plan). I just want people, especially young teens and young adults, that it is ABSOLUTELY POSSIBLE to still travel the world and battle mental illnesses like Anxiety and Depression. Obviously within reasons and with a mentally stable mind. 

I would just like to give a brief update and sense of what posts I will be putting up and how often they will come out. I will be traveling for all but about a week and a half of July, which means I will be writing my posts on the road when I can. The second trip (July 16- 28th -ish) is a church youth/ family trip, therefore, there will probably not be a whole lot of extra writing time. So do not expect many posts between those dates, I will try my best but I will not guarantee anything. I am currently writing this post while in the car on my way to Michigan with my mom and brother, Micaiah for about a week. My dad is joining us next weekend for my graduation party. I so far have about 3 full posts that will be able to be posted either this week or the next few weeks. I am going to do a travel journal for my Michigan trip on my PHOTOGRAPHY Instagram stories and then I am going to do a full, in depth post probably next weekend on my way home. So make sure, if you want to keep up with my Michigan travels, to follow my PHOTOGRAPHY Instagram to keep up with my travels there!! 

Once July’s travels are through, then I will possibly be going on a shorter, long weekend trip to Georgia at the beginning of August for my cousins bootcamp graduation. If I do go on that trip, it is going to be a girls trip down and back with Sophie and her mom, MaryBeth, and my mom and myself. We will be meeting up with my moms family once we get down there so I don’t know how much time I will have for writing on that trip either. So I have options… Would you rather me do an Instagram story travel journal and save them to my highlights… OR … Would you prefer me to just gather everything and make one longer post once the trip is over??? Let me know!!! 

I haven’t forgotten about my blog, things have just been really, really, really busy but exciting! I am super excited to share everything with everyone, it is just going to take me a little bit longer than normal to get my posts out. 

Thank you for sticking with me, though, it truly means a lot to me! 

Love you all, 

Peace Out – Kiley 

~SOCIAL MEDIA IS IN SIDE BAR~

Where Have I Been?

Hello again! Long time no talk… literally! I know it’s been a really long time since I have wrote a post but I truly had to take the step back and let God get in my heart. It was not easy taking a break and I missed writing more than ever but I will say that the break was lovely!

I am not sure what Gods plan is for my blog and for me in general but I do know that I will be starting college in August and I can not wait to share my journey with everyone.

Since I have been gone for so long I do have some very exciting updates to share with everyone! I know one of the first things that happened since being away is my senior Prom happened. I went with a foreign exchange student for my senior prom and we took pictures with my best friend Abby and her boyfriend, Jacob. Then we went and took even more pictures with a group of my girlfriends and we also went out to eat with them before prom. Overall, this night was so much fun and was definitely a night that I will remember forever!

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Next event that happened was I GRADUATED HIGH SCHOOL!! Holy Cow! I can not believe that I have finally graduated from one of the most memorable times in my life. It was such a surreal night! I don’t have many pictures from Graduation night because it was such an insane and crazy night! But I have shared what pictures I do have over on my Instagram!

Life has been CRAZY and filled with so much time spent with friends and family and it has been so nice not having to worry about a thing! Like I said earlier, I truly do miss writing, sharing, and interacting with all of my readers but I knew that I needed to re-evaluate my relationship with God. I am truly grateful that I have been supported so strongly since taking my break and I have gained so many new followers! Thank you to each one of you who has stuck around through everything!

I am not guaranteeing that this means I will be back regularly quite yet but it does mean that God has opened some doors for me and has called me to come back to blogging again. I am excited to be back and I cant wait to see what God has in store!

Peace out- Kiley

My Instagram: @kiley_hbp

When God has Other Plans…

 

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This is going to be a very random, not short, all over the place post about the things that are going on in my life. It will also most likely be one of the last posts from me for a short time. I promise I wont be gone for a long time, but I need to take a break and that’s what ill be talking about in this post.

Lets begin with why things have been far and few between on my blog for the past two months or so. The biggest reason being I had hip surgery two months ago and I have spent my time pretty much relearning how to walk and use that leg. It has been a long journey and I eventually want to share it with everyone but I’m not ready yet and that’s okay. I appreciate the love and support from everyone and I am so thankful to have such an awesome bloggers community!

The biggest reasoning why I have not been posting a lot and why I am in need of a break is that I have burnt myself out and God is calling me in other places. I started out this year with such passion and motivation for this hobby of mine and don’t get me wrong I still love it! However, sometimes passion and motivation doesn’t carry you all the way through because you don’t have your relationship with God in the right place on your priority list.

I’m going to be honest and tell you that I have fought and wrestled day and night with God about taking this break for months now. Heck I even planned out posts and I wrote some and I tried to start a second blog series where I would create a bible study for the book of Ruth. The simple reality of those posts and attempted posts is that they SUCKED because my heart wasn’t in it. I knew I needed to post something and I really wanted to just shove through the “writers block” and I prayed that I would find my direction and be right back on track, but that just did not work.

One of the final reasons why I am choosing to take this break from blogging is because I leave for college in August and I am spending all summer traveling which means that I wont be able to spend my summer with all the people I would like to before we leave for college in the fall. My family absolutely comes first in my life (other then Christ obviously) and right now my family needs my full attention more than ever. Also my friendships need some serious evaluating and some strong love. I have been blessed to have some of the most amazing friends ever and I need to take some time to really show those people how much I value our friendship.

Like I mentioned in the previous paragraph, I graduate in less than two months and life is about to get CRAZY CRAZY! I am also going to be returning back to school very soon as long as my upcoming Drs. apt. goes smoothly, which means my focus will need to return to my school work and on graduating high school for the next month and a half.

Taking this break is not an easy choice for me to make but I am excited to put my energy and time towards strengthening my relationship with Jesus. Knowing that I will be back soon definitely makes this easier for me and I know that I will be back with some very exciting content! I can not give a time or date of when I will return but just know it will be soon and I will still be writing about my travels this summer and some posts about graduating and high school. So don’t go anywhere if you have subscribed to my blog because this is NOT a goodbye this is a see ya soon!

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I love you all and I am so thankful for all the support and prayers, they mean the world to me and I could not do this with out you all! I will see you all VERY soon, I promise! Make sure you follow me on Instagram so that you can keep up with what I am working on and doing on a daily basis! You can follow me here!

Peace Out and much love- Kiley

A Honest Letter to Underclassmen

As senior year was approaching last summer I consciously remember scrolling through Pinterest reading blog post after blog post about SENIOR YEAR! It was exciting! I was an overly stressed out junior and was about to continue my chain of stress as I geared up to take four college level classes (two of which were actual college courses). People always told me growing up to relax senior year and to really enjoy it as it was my last chance at enjoying my high school career and because I would simply miss the “easy times” in my life. Well, I am here to inform you that my senior year has been anything but “easy” and to put it frank, I don’t really want to remember my senior year. However, I would not be the women I have/am becoming today if I did not experience it. That is why I want to write this letter to the frightful and shy upcoming freshman or an underclassman who might be terrified of senior year or just high school in general.

Dear frightful teenager,
You’re either about to begin high school or you might be entering your senior year, you’re fearful of the possibilities, you’re curious of others experiences, you’re LOST! I get it! Trust me, I really do understand what you’re feeling! I hope you will find some comfort or possible direction through this letter to you!

First, I want to tell you a bit about my personal high school experience. I don’t want to scare or intimidate you by this so you must read this letter all the way through. Okay, so in my very small, one stop light county, we have four even smaller cities. We do not have any middle schools, therefore, we complete elementary school in the 7th grade and we start high school in 8th grade. Sounds horrible doesn’t it? Well, its actually not as bad as it seems. Yes, there are some maturity differences and some unique experiences that I would not have experienced had I gone to a middle school. In 6th and 7th grade most kids crave a taste of freedom and that is why middle school is much more similar to high school than elementary school, but where I live we were still walking single file, follow the leader (our teacher) to our classes the next classroom over. Though the 6th and 7th grade classrooms had their own wing in the school it still was not the same. We managed and we definitely faced a bit of reality when we arrived in 8th grade. Surrounded by people you’ve never even seen before, classes with no friends, the freedom and responsibility of arriving to your classes on time. It was a lot to get used to and there was a lot to learn. The biggest lesson I had to learn the hard way was learning who I was and what I was like as a person. In “middle school” I just floated because I was not popular at all and I didn’t make friends easily because I had only gone to the school since 4th grade. When I got to 8th grade I had SO MANY new faces and people to meet and get to know, it also gave me more opportunities for making friends. My freshman year I had a group of friends that were essentially part time friends and it was a good day when my presence was noticed. This year is the most blurred year to me though and I don’t really remember much. However, my sophomore year has an immense significance to me and also my graduating class. Personally it is holds magnitude for me because this is the year I accepted Jesus Christ as my personal Lord and Savior. As exciting as this was for me, my classmates and I had to grieve a loss of a classmate. The day after his death (he committed suicide due to bullying and we found out the morning after when we arrived at school) will forever be a heavy day for me. I will never forget the feeling and the silence that washed over the hallway I was standing in. It was a very hard time for my classmates and I, but I know that it did bring a lot of us closer together in the end. My junior year was when the beginning of my hip journey (read my previous hip journey posts to find out more) and it was a year filled with uncertainty and new experiences. I completed 8 months of physical therapy and I was spending a lot of time in doubt as I traveled from doctor to doctor getting no where. It was a very physically and emotionally painful year for me and it was also a year filled with academic hardships. I was pushing myself as far as I could and I was loosing my power and strength VERY fast because of the other hardships I was going through. And here we are… SENIOR YEAR! A year I wish had no significance so I could forget it like I have my freshman year. A physically challenging year. A year of answers and praise. A year of excitement and yet a year of sadness. I started the year off in physical therapy again and I still had no answers. I was taking two college credit classes, one college material class (non college credit), and one Spanish 4 class. I doubt you’ll ever hear anyone say their Spanish 4 class was the class they looked forward to each day because it was a mental break. I never had a day when I came home with absolutely no homework of any kind. Second semester was a 360 degree difference but not necessarily in a good way. I had a very large hip surgery after finally receiving answers, I restarted physical therapy this time with a purpose and a goal, and I learned how much I truly appreciate my routine of going to school and how meaningful people truly are.

You see, I’ve been through a lot; good, bad and the ugly. I’m thankful for it all and I know I would not be the same person I am today with out any minor piece of it.

Alright, you came here seeking some advice I am assuming. Before I just jump right in, I want you to know that its okay to have a bad high school experience. It will most likely not be your favorite time in life to remember but that’s not an excuse to completely stop from trying to make it a memorable time. Its not ever going to be like High School Musical or Glee. Thanks Troy Bolton, Gabriella, and Rachel Berry! Okay, on to my tips and pieces of advice…

  1. Like I mentioned earlier, there is reality and there is Hollywood high school. Trust me, I LOVE High School Musical and I have since 2006 and I will always love it! Although, Troy and Gabriella make it look like a blast as they sing through the halls and through sports practices, it’s never been like that and it never will be. High school is hard and you often have to make it your own musical just to make it through the day!
  2. Learn to like coffee! Learn to pull all-nighter’s. Learn to work under pressure. Learn how to become a detective on google! I know it all sounds ridiculous and partially like cheating and that’s because it is. I am not going to lie and tell you that you’ll make it through without googling the homework at 1:30 am because you forgot there was homework because it will happen and not just once! You’ll pull at least one all-nighter or one that might as well be an all-nighter and you’ll be searching for the coffee pot come second period. You will also forget that you have a paper due or a large homework assignment and you will learn how to multi task your way through your first period class.
  3. This is not Mean Girls and you’re not Regina George! Trust me when I say you will rather be known for the over friendly kid in school that the biggest snot around town! You will be made fun of in high school and you will have days when you wish a good knuckle sandwich was not against the rules. Just because you have bad days does not exempt you from the ability of making new friends every so often or even being a friend to the kid who is not so liked in your school.
  4. Anxiety and mental health disorders are a real thing and you WILL either have first hand experience with it or you will be a witness to it at some point in your high school career. It is a very scary and serious thing. Do not take the opportunity of judgement, instead take the opportunity of comfort. If you experience anxiety or any other mental illness, please remember that you still have a purpose and I guarantee you that it is a sickening sweet purpose! You are a child of God no matter what and there is always hope!
  5. HAVE FUN! MAKE MEMORIES! Its not an easy time in anyone’s life but it is the most significant time in ones life. You become an adult and you learn to discover who you truly are! Take advantage of the opportunities to have fun and make memories with your friends!

I hope that this letter gave some insight into high school and shows you that high school doesn’t have to be a miserable experience! Take advantage of wise and positive opportunities and just stay true to who you are. Don’t pretend to impress anyone. Enjoy high school while you can because in a few short years it will be the end and you will wish you would have listened!

sincerely,
A class of 2018 graduate

Don’t forget to check out my previous blog posts if you enjoyed this one and also keep an eye out for some really exciting upcoming posts! I have a lot in the works and I cant wait to share with you! Also remember to check out my social media and follow me there so you can see what my life is like outside of my blog!

Peace Out- Kiley

 

The downfalls to my job

I would like to make it a very strong point that I love what I do and I would never trade it for anything! Every job/hobby has disappointments and downfalls, but it does not always mean that the job is worth getting out of or loosing. The positives will always override the negatives no matter how hard my job gets!

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I want to state that I do not make a single dime from my blogging and it is solely a ‘free job’ for right now. One day soon, I would absolutely love for that to change for me, but in order to make that happen I have to keep at it. I only make money from my photography and as long as I am not doing photography I do not have any income.

Lets get started…
1. Not having a solid income…
as I stated before my blog does not bring in any income. You could probably imagine how frustrating that can be sometimes. You are having very solid traffic on your blog and yet you’re still making free entertainment for others. It sucks, I am not going to lie, but it takes hard work to make a profit and to make it worth it.

2. Not having solid traffic or a solid audience
Having that solid audience or traffic is what makes your work and effort and time worth it. Seeing your effort being rewarded is the best feeling in the world and when you get rewarded for the work it makes you motivated.

3. Writing for a public platform…
This is both a very positive thing and a intimidating thing about blogging. I am a total people pleaser and I do not like being not liked by someone. When I write about something a bit more opinionated or personal, it makes the job 10X harder than normal. I do not like offending anyone, but unfortunately it is going to happen with a publicly platformed job.

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4. Writers block…
Writers block happens almost every single time I sit down to write a blog post and it SUUUCCCCKKKKSSS! I continually ask people for post ideas, but y’all must be invisible readers or just aliens, I am not sure you’ll have to let me know in the comments below! I usually lean on Pinterest for this major problem and usually it will help give me at least a base of an idea. Also a lot of times, the world wide events will give me a piece of inspiration too.

5. FEAR.
Need I say more? I don’t think so. I did mention this in number 3, but it is flipping scary posting some of your strongest and most personal thoughts and opinions online for the world to see! I am so beyond thankful and blessed to have such amazing readers, friends and family who are supportive and loving towards what I publish.

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These are just five things that I find to be the downfalls to having an online job and ultimately in blogging alone. A big part of what I do requires more advertising and behind the scenes planning and preparing blog post ideas and reaching out to companies to help get my business off the ground. Thank you to you if you have stuck around for the past few years of my journey and if not and you’re new, don’t be afraid to join me!

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Peace Out- Kiley

the most difficult post to write…

I have written and re-written and re-written this probably close to 4 or 5 times, I think I finally just realized I have to just have to write it and not care about what others are going to say in response to this post. My intentions by this are not to start any drama by stating some of my opinions, my only intentions are to bring awareness to abuse and to how strong the victims of abuse really are. God has put this topic on my heart in a very tender spot and I can not shake it, so I knew I had to do something about it. Writing is an outlet for me and it is where I feel safest letting my true feelings out. I also think it is something that makes it harder sometimes because I do post this on a public platform and anyone is able to read it and that is something that is always in the back of my mind. So, be kind and sweet like always and I hope to see you all in two weeks or less!

This past week something extremely impactful in the United States happened. A man named Larry Nassar endured a seven-day court trial after he pleaded guilty to molesting and sexually abusing seven young girls between the ages of 6-15. However, that number only began at seven and over the course of seven days, over 150 young girls and women, parents, spouses, and other friends and family members testified to the judge (who was the most amazing judge I have ever seen or heard of before.) about all of their horrific experiences of being sexually abused by Larry Nassar. Most of these women were patients of Larry Nassar while he was practicing Osteopathic medicine at Michigan State University. Most of his patients were the gymnasts from a well-known gymnastics training gym for elite and Olympic gymnasts called Twistars. Twistars, located in Lansing, Michigan, was just one of the multiple locations where Larry Nassar used his master manipulation to brainwash the young women into believing he was a trustworthy friend and doctor. He definitely was not the typical doctor. He gave these girls presents and he even opened his family’s basement in their home to his patients when they endured injuries that needed immediate attention.

These brave and strong girls endured more than molestation and abuse and that is a fact. When dozens of these girls went to their coaches and parents and even head of MSU, they were told they had mistaken a medical procedure and that there was no way Larry Nassar, the Olympic team doctor, would ever do that to these girls. The parents could not fathom that a man they were trusting to provide medical care to their daughters while most of them were in the same room. These girls have had to live for over 20 years with the shame and the horrifying nightmares and depression that this man has caused.

As an 18-year-old female, a Michigan native, someone who loved the short time they were able to do gymnastics, and as a citizen of the United States of America, I can not even describe the sickening pit I have had in my stomach because of this mans crimes. The fact that such a respected university in the state of Michigan would fail so poorly is honestly embarrassing for Michigan as a state. USA Gymnastics, if I was a mother I would never let my daughter compete for the USAG Olympic team or even on a National team level. To be honest, I don’t even know I would put her in the sport at any level right now and that breaks my heart because when I moved from Michigan to Virginia, I had to stop taking gymnastics after only being involved for a year or so and I regret that my parents did not push me to restart taking classes again once we moved. Lastly, I can’t even stomach the thought of knowing had I not moved from Michigan, I would have continued with gymnastics and because of the stress of the sport on the body, my chances of being one of this mans victims would have been incredibly high. That sickens me to measures I can not even put into words.

To anyone who has ever been abused, sexually, mentally, physically, or emotionally, know that you will be okay because you are stronger than you can ever realize. Also, you need to speak up and I know how terrifying that is and it will never be easy, but if you don’t that increases the chances of more people getting hurt. No abuse is ever okay and no one should ever get away with it, no matter their fame or reputation. If no one listens, DO NOT give up because eventually someone will listen.

To just be a bystander in this last week’s events is heartbreaking enough, but I cannot even imagine what it was like to be one of those survivors who chose to look their abuser in the eye and tell him how they feel. The one thing I have learned this week was that God gives us a life of forgiveness and more strength than recognizable. He will protect you when you put all your trust in him.

This week on Friday, I will be having extensive hip surgery to correct the deformity in my hip and also a labrum tear. I had planned on recording a video blog series and posting those instead of having to sit down and type things out. Sounds lazy, I know, but I am not going to want to have to put hardly any effort into writing out blog posts or doing any of that stuff. I still am planning on recording those to upload during that part of my recovery time, but I probably won’t be posting until at least the week of the 11th of February. I do not even want to promise that because I do not know how I will be feeling or how busy I will be with school work.

Thank you again for all of the support and kindness, I truly appreciate it!

Peace Out – Kiley

 

Finding a Spouse

I recently asked my friends to give me some blog post ideas for 2018 and I made sure to ask one of my closest guy friends because its not something I would typically think of doing, but I’m really glad I did. He brought up the topic of finding a spouse as a Christian guy, but then I asked him what he meant and how he wanted me to approach this topic. He told me that as a guy, he tends to see guys dating girls just because of looks and because they think a girl is “hot”. This really bothers not only my friend, but it also really bothers me.

As a 18 year old girl, I have had one semi-serious boyfriend and we only dated for a little under four months. It was a hard breakup for me and I’ve talked about it on my blog before, but I ended up learning a lot from it and I’m grateful to have gone through that experience because I learned who I was and what I want to find in a husband when the time comes.

I want to share something that I learned when I went through the break up. However, I know that someone is going to read this and misunderstand my meaning behind my words, so I am going to make the disclaimer before I even say it. The guy I dated was not a bad person and our relationship was just not meant to be. My words are in no way aimed at this person. Now ill share what I learned with you.

“Not everyone that goes to church regularly, says they have a relationship with Jesus, and claims to be an on fire for Jesus kind of Christian actually is.”

So, what do we do when we want a spouse or partner whom sincerely loves Jesus and lives what they say even when you aren’t around? You PRAY! I have to admit that I am not as good at regularly praying like I ought to be, but I am working on it. Prayer is such a fascinating tool we have as Christians because it provides such an intimate time with you and Jesus. I personally have found when I pray ill automatically lift up the guy God has planned for me to eventually marry. Even though I don’t have any clue as to who this person is yet, I still know that I want this guy to love Jesus more than he loves me, I want him to love children, I want him to obtain certain qualities in his personality and character. I always ask God for a guy who loves Jesus more than me because to me that is something I am always going to desire having in a spouse. We also have to remember that Gods plan is far greater than we could ever fathom and God will always have the perfect person planned for you and you have to trust his plan and timing no matter how impatient you may get.

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Okay, so when I was trying to plan this post out and just like every other post, I was trying to find scripture to match the topic. I had a hard time finding scripture this time because I didn’t know exactly how to word what I was looking for, but also because in todays society Google is so used to having girls who are broken and lonely asking “how to find the perfect husband”. This makes me so sad, y’all!! Let me tell you why it makes me so sad. First thing is that there is only one perfect person and that’s Jesus. Secondly, its more common than not that these people whom search this are not believers of God and don’t realize they don’t need to “find” a perfect husband because God already has that planned for them.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.”
1 Corinthians 13:4

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One of the most popular bible verses about love. How appropriate?! Okay, in all seriousness though, this verse and honestly this entire chapter in 1 Corinthians withholds so much intelligence and truth that to me, I would say it describes what love is perfectly.

“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put ways of childhood behind me.”
1 Corinthians 13:11

This verse is a very “use it as you interpret it” kind of verse. To me, I picture an annoyed  wife quoting this verse to her husband as he is irritating her. I also could see this being used as a verse of testimony and many other ways. I think that as a future wife, I would  most likely use this verse to grab the attention of my irritating husband. Haha.

“Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.””
1 Corinthians 15:33

As a Christian seeking a spouse, this verse as well as the next verse I am going to share are two verses that ALL Christians who are seeking a spouse need to know. I think this verse more than the next, is a verse that applies to all relationships in life; friendships, employee relationships, acquaintances, etc.

“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteous and wicked have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?”
2 Corinthians 6: 14

Now, before you think “Oh My Word! I cant believe Christians think they are too good to be in fellowship around non-believers!!” just hold your horses for a second and listen to what I am saying. I completely understand where some may think that Christians think they are too good for those who aren’t, but the truth about this verse is that it is in a chapter about Idolatry. Paul wrote 2 Corinthians as the second Epistle to the church of God in Corinth. Chapter six is a very weird and seemingly out of place chapter, but when its deeper studied it shows that it does fit into what Paul was trying to say. Paul came to the church in Corinth because he knew that the Pagans in Corinth were idolaters. They were worshiping false Gods. That is why Paul went to the church in Corinth in the first place; he more or less is explaining his trip to Corinth in the sixth chapter.

So, now that I have shared some key verses with you and I have shared with you the things that God instructs us to do in order to find the perfect spouse as Christians. I pray that you will take this advice and apply it to your life

Remember to encourage one another as you go through out your days and I also encourage you to take 3 extra minuets and pray for your future spouse today!

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Also a HUGE thank you to my friend Matthew for the topic suggestion and help!

Peace Out- Kiley

 

 

Reflecting With a Healthy Attitude

As another birthday passes not only do I wish I was 9 turning 10 again, but I also really reflect on the past year of my life. Turning 18 today has been a strong reasoning for me to reflect on the age 17 and the past year of my life. There was a lot I went through this year; good, bad, ugly, beautiful, etc. However, its one more year I was never guaranteed to get and I was blessed to have gotten it. It sounds super crazy and cliché. I am fully aware of that, but it is so true and you probably won’t agree until you’ve experienced it yourself.

Sitting down and reflecting is something I really want to make a goal for me this year. It is something I have always tried hard to do, but I also was only trying to accomplish the “reflecting” part of my goal and I was lacking in the “living in the moment” department. I think people try so hard to live in the moment, but they only live in the moments they REALLY want to remember, which is good, but I also think that in order for us as humans and especially as Christians we need to be living in the moment all the time.

As a Christian and especially in the world today, living with a positive and Godly attitude is extremely difficult, but difficult is not impossible. I have started reading a devotional book each day (mainly at night because Lord knows I am NOT a morning person and I sleep until the very last minuet possible.) and the devotional is called the “Live Original Devotional” written by Sadie Robertson. Now, if you know me on a personal level you would know I am completely obsessed with Sadie and her love for the Lord. She is one of my biggest role models as a Christian and especially as a teenage girl whom loves Jesus. Anyways, I brought this up because the first week has been all about attitudes and finding the Christian attitude that Jesus kept. She put something really awesome that I want to share with you guys into such a great perspective and into such an inspiring way. She said “If we are to have a good attitude anywhere near that of Jesus, we have to know what His attitude is, and the only way we can do that is by learning more about him. Keep studying every day…” I LOVE THAT!!!

 

My Little Helper showing us her positive attitude!

I feel like Jesus is often portrayed as a really snobby, perfect, rich kid, which folks is WRONG WRONG WRONG! He is perfect and he is and will be the only perfect person to ever walk the Earth, but he was the farthest thing from rich and he certainly is not snobby. When we continue to read and learn more about Jesus in the Bible and through the works he preforms today, we continually are seeing how Jesus is the most loving, compassionate, and welcoming individual that is perfect.

I don’t know many people who think they are perfect and are someone who walks up to you with their arms wide open ready to help at any given point. Yes, I do realize how snobby that sounds of me and how stereotypical that statement is, but I know I am not the only one who would make that general statement. However, the cool thing is that I do actually know one individual who is perfect and who will do anything at the drop of a hat with loving and welcoming arms, his name is Jesus.

I brought all of this to the surface and I wanted to talk about it because we are talking about reflecting with a healthy attitude. In order to have a healthy attitude, we have to have a Christ like attitude. It is absolutely hard, but its hard not impossible!

So, lets talk about how to reflect with a healthy attitude now. I want to talk about what we should even emphasize when we are reflecting on something because I know that sometimes when negativity outweighs the positive all we are able to focus on is the negative.

One of the biggest tips I have for thinking more about the positive then the negative is to either make yourself a hand written or typed out list of the valuable things you have learned through the event you’re reflecting on. Also, if making a list is just not working for you, then try to think about where God made an appearance in the time you’re reflecting on.

One of my favorite things to remember this year is an analogy I came up with after I was given the book called “Uninvited” for a Christmas gift this year. I have never read it nor do I know a thing about it, but I am super excited to read it. I thought of this analogy while thinking about the title of the book and the Lord gave me this: “Life is like your birthday party and the enemy wasn’t invited, but God sure was.” If the enemy still shows up then you have the option to either let him come into kill, steal, and destroy, or you have the option to kick him out to the curb.

 

Don’t let the enemy in your party if you want to help yourself reflect positively on something, it will do nothing except help you do the complete opposite! I hope that this post was helpful and was in some way inspiring or motivating to you. If you are interested in any of the books I have mentioned in the post I will leave a link to them both so that way you can check them out!

 

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We’re reminding you to Reflect Positively!!

 

I also hope everyone had a fantastic New Years and that you’re staying warm this week in these chilly temperatures!

Peace out- Kiley

Live Original Devotional by Sadie Robertson

Uninvited by Lysa TerKeurst

Goodbye 2017… Hello 2018

It has been since October since I existed on my blog, but I am okay with that because this year has been a prime example of a hurricane in my family and even in my own personal life. After I did my very first blog series and I got so much feedback on it, I loved it and I did truly meant everything I said in that series, but I honestly think I was prepping myself for my own experiences as I was writing that blog series. I have been through the most challenging year of my life yet and I have had to jump so many hurdles. With that being said, I do know that I have so much to be thankful for and I am beyond blessed and I may sound like I am complaining, but my intentions are not to whine and complain about my petty problems, my intentions are to share my story, share how my year has gone and to help others.

This year I have gained blessings, gained burdens, threw away those burdens, gained blessings in disguises that I didn’t notice happened, I have been through the most stressful semester I have ever been through in school, I have also had to throw my life up in the air all because of something that I was born with and was never caught early on. I have busted my butt to achieve goals and I watched it move like a turtle. To put it more simply, this year was a whirlwind!

When we started the process with finding the issue with my hip last January, we never expected to be in this position like we are today. I maybe expected to have to do a few months of physical therapy and just regular check ups with a hip specialist or chiropractor. I absolutely never expected to be facing an extensive surgery and more PT!

The one thing that I am ready for 2018 to bring on is attending college to educate myself further in Photography. I can not wait! I am really hoping that once high school is over and I begin college I will have more time to work on my photography and blogging, as that is my dream career path.

This year I was really disappointed in myself because I did not manage to keep my blog going, but that also was a side effect of living in the physical therapist office and doctors offices and having one heck of  a semester in school. I am proud of the business advances I had the opportunity to make this year. I made a really great mentor and friend through my blog and we still keep in touch through social media! (Thanks Caitlyn for everything and the best of luck to you on your new business journey!!) I hope that this year will bring me some new and exciting business advances and opportunities!

2018 will be a new year filled with ups and downs, with growth, with blessings, with new relationships, with a whole new rollercoaster of adventures! Bring it on 2018, I’m waiting for you!

I want to finish this post off by saying a major THANK YOU to everyone who has read, commented, emailed, messaged, and all of the love and support! You have made this journey possible for me to embark on and I hope that you will continue to give me that support as I embark on the next journey of 2018!

Peace Out
Kiley